Romancing the Home by Chris Garner
We don’t often consider the fact that romance between husband and wife affects the whole family. Romance is often seen as an act of passion or intimacy occurring between husband and wife, perhaps once in a while. Yet, romance affects a couple’s children profoundly, sets the tone for their home and should occur with great frequency. Romance is, ‘sharing and giving of yourself – the little – and big – things you do to say; “I love you” and let your spouse know that he or she is special.’ This is something that can be done on a daily basis by making the effort to demonstrate our love to our spouse. Seeing that demonstration of love will build security and confidence in children.
One can romance his or her spouse each and every day by doing little things and sometimes big things to let one’s spouse know he or she is special. What about embracing your spouse in front of the children and asking them, “Do you know that I have the best wife (or husband) in the whole world?” And then giving your spouse a big kiss? Not only will your spouse feel loved, but after your children finish laughing and making faces at your ‘mushiness’ – they will gain confidence that their parents are in love and committed to each other. Children need to know that their parents are doing well and working together as a team. As much as they will attempt to divide parents, they do not want to see their parents divided. One marriage researcher wrote that, “the best gift you can give your children is a good marriage.” Romance is good for your marriage and for your children and it also can be a lot of fun!
Sure, life is busy and meeting the challenges of life is difficult, but with a little ingenuity and work, you can make romance a regular part of your married life. Romancing your spouse IS romancing the home, because the children will feel the love demonstrated between you and your spouse. You can even get your children involved in romancing your spouse; having the children present your wife with flowers or having them greet dad at the door with notes of love and affection. You must be purposeful about giving of yourself to your spouse, even when you may not feel like it. The Bible tells us that love covers a multitude of sins, love your spouse and set a tone of love in your home – it will be worth it.
You can find a multitude of romance resources on our website; including a printable document; 50 Ways to Love Your Lover. Begin romancing your home today!
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